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Plus, I am a Korean American woman dating a blond, blue-eyed, German-blooded man born and raised in North Dakota to a baseball-obsessed, Baptist, Republican family.
The fact that David happens to be white didn’t bother me ... Another friend said, “Well, he’s got a type.” Yet another acquaintance said, “Yeah, you’re the type white boys will go for.” These reactions all came from fellow Asian folks.These are confusing times when it comes to racial issues, and I’d like to address one subtopic that’s gained attention: interracial couples—or more specifically, the increasingly criticized trend of Asian women dating white men.It’s a divisive issue fraught with emotion and misunderstanding, and weighed down with historical, cultural, and social baggage.In doing so, the interviewer proclaimed, she would “decolonize her desire” and “fight back against centuries of racist U. policies and Western colonization.” As I listened to this interviewee and her self-congratulating, patronizing, “woke” mission, I felt shaken awake: What in the world is going on?Have we really come down to this—marking racial check boxes in our romantic pursuits?Suddenly, I had to bear the weight of bulky terms such as “Asian fetish,” “white worshiping,” “colonial mentality,” and “internalized racism”—terms that, frankly, don’t describe my relationship with David, or the relationships of other interracial couples I know.
When I mentioned the Asian female stereotype to David, he laughed: “That’s crazy.
When I was dating a Jewish guy, I started noticing that there were a lot of couples like us: white or Jewish man, Asian woman.
And there’s this stereotype of Asian women who date white guys—that they’re dating them because they worship whiteness, because they despise their own Asianness.” Then she got very honest: “When I see other Asian-female/white-male couples, I instinctively stereotype them.
The third article was written by a Latino man who felt pressured by today’s “woke” society to stop dating white women.
The basic idea is that “racial dating preferences” is just a code word for racial stereotypes and prejudices, such as the degradation of black women, the criminalization of black and Latino men, and the feminization of Asian men in Hollywood and the media, trends that sociologists trace back to colonialism.
I think it’s good to be self-aware and educated on such matters … Recently, a friend sent me an podcast episode in which an Asian American woman interviews another Asian American woman who mostly dates white men.