Chivalry and dating etiquette
I see chivalry as a form of respect and a sign of kindness from a person I could potentially share myself with.
She's a regular contributor to Bustle, Glamour, Mic, and Livingly.I believe, like many people, that women and men are equal and therefore should be treated as such. Also, if I’m willing to pick up the tab sometimes, shouldn’t he?The gender pay gap has to be closed, the sexism displayed by our government has to be burned to the ground, and the patriarchy has to be destroyed. But I’m also a feminist who still wants some chivalry in my dating life. I’ve never experienced those days and I’d really like that. I don’t expect it, but I sure as hell appreciate it. Getting back to how decency has gone out the window, holding a door open for a woman is considered chivalrous because we live in a society where letting the door slam on anyone, female or male, is almost acceptable.I don’t see the problem in wanting to be protected and kept safe.I can do it on my own, but that doesn’t mean I don’t need help sometimes. Ever since I can remember whenever our family went to fancy restaurants my father has always gotten up whenever my mother or I went to the bathroom. It’s acknowledging that my presence is going away then coming back.Do I deserve special treatment because I’m a woman? I don’t need a knight in shining armor to save me, but if I’m out with my partner and someone gives me crap for whatever reason, I want my partner to come to my side and defend me. Recently I was on a date with someone, who, as we walked, moved himself to the outside of the sidewalk so he was the one closer to the street.
No, but if I’m looking tired and clearly at the end of my rope, it’s the polite thing to do. I don’t want someone who’s going to sheepishly sit there quietly expecting me to fight my own battle when they’ve decided to be my partner. It wasn’t that he was suggesting that he, as a man, could fight off any barreling truck in a way that I couldn’t (because no one can beat a truck), but it was an act of protection.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with this and strongly believe that while I may be a feminist, I’m still entitled to some romanticism in my life.
Since chivalry and romance often go hand-in-hand, I’ll take the chivalry, please, if it means getting some romance for a change.
The next time you are interested in someone tell them, make them feel special, let yourself be vulnerable to them.
This will speed up the process and create a genuine connection that you can trust in.
Meanwhile, you are still trying to lockdown the first guy.