I can only handle one date per week, and I need at least a few days notice. It takes a lot out of me to prepare for that first date.First, there are the messages sent back and forth over a matter of days (or weeks, if I’m talking to someone who is particularly gun-shy), and that alone depletes some of my energy to make small talk and ask all those “initial questions”.
For me, I much prefer going for dinner as a first date…Nothing serious has been established, but when those relationships end, I can’t jump right back into the dating pool.Those few weeks were intense ones for me and I need time by myself to let go of all my visions for what could have been and to find myself again.With coffee or a drink, it’s a date that can end in 15 minutes or linger for an hour.I also dislike the advice about going for drinks because bars make me uncomfortable.Over the past few years, I’ve had my fair share of good dates and bad dates.
And before I learned about my HSP trait, I often thought there was something weird or wrong with me.
without being all, “Sry, introvert battery drained. “Oh, I’d love to, but I need to get home and let my dog out.
He’s older, so he can’t go too long between bathroom breaks.” It’s lame, I know, but it’s sometimes the best I can do.
I have friends who did the date-as-much-as-possible way and found true, lasting love.
I have friends who only went on one or two dates before meeting the love of their life. There’s nothing to say that going on a lot of dates will yield a boyfriend that going on as few dates as possible will yield singleness. And the truth is that dating when you’re a highly sensitive person and an introvert is a vastly different experience.
Being a highly sensitive person (HSP) is a pretty spectacular personality trait to have, and that’s especially true when it comes to dating.