I am dating my ex
But if your relationship was a healthy, happy, stable one, and you ended it for reasons that, now, seem like part of the past, there's no harm in trying again. Three months deep into my break-up, I have experienced almost all of them.
When you find out your ex has a new partner, it's important to use healthy ways to process the news."Once you love someone, unless your respect for them is destroyed, you can always love them again," Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, tells Elite Daily."This is the person that knows your hopes, dreams, and secrets. Why do you think some people are always threatened by their partner's ex?"The love was always there, the question now is — is there more work to do together? If someone is willing to fix the things that were wrong, if they are fixable, then it's safe to give it another try.If it's a fatal flaw though, like compulsive lying, cheating or abuse, then that's always a no-go.Then, you can deal with your feelings by acknowledging how you feel, talking to friends, and journaling.
If you haven't already, set strong boundaries between yourself and your ex.
There are a do those feelings you used to have for them just suddenly disappear? According to experts, it's totally possible, and it happens more than you might think.
In most cases, it's totally possible to fall back in love with someone you used to date.
"As a matchmaker, this is the number one thing that holds people back from finding the right one," Trombetti explains.
"I always say 'everyone is hung up on someone, whether it's real or in their head.' Don't be hung up on your ex comparing everyone to him because you have feelings of love being stoked on a regular basis by your ex." If you know your ex isn't the one for you, the best course of action is probably to avoid getting back together and try your very best to move on.
Instead of comparing yourself to others, look at how much you've grown, and be grateful for what you do have.