Internet dating why it does not work
Experts say online dating sites see a huge traffic increase between Christmas and Valentine’s Day.
When not helping clients fulfill their personal relationship goals, she enjoys the Colorado outdoors, capturing life through photography, practicing yoga and hopes to one day manage her first unassisted headstand. It feels hurt, rejected and hopeless about ever finding love.Yes, you’ve told the universe that you are open for love.With some goading from a friend — who somehow convinced me that the stigma against online dating was no more — I joined Ok Cupid and started scanning the thousands of matches that popped up on my screen.Apparently, I wasn’t alone in my Valentine’s Day depression-induced hunt for Prince Charming.So you’ve taken the plunge—the online dating plunge. You’ve discussed the activities and interests that are meaningful to you and that you hope to find in potential mates. I know, I cringe just thinking of saying it because it doesn’t feel good to hear at a time like this. Finding love in the midst of desperation, self-doubt and urgency will not serve your quest for love.
You’ve selected your best looking photos—a couple of yourself, some of you engaged in your favorite interests and maybe even a couple of your adorable pet or niece/nephew just for good measure. Take some long, deep breaths and practice patience—with yourself and with others.
However, that doesn’t mean that you’ve closed the door on continuing to love. Are you still engaging in the activities and practices that make you, ?
And, if you haven’t mastered—or are practicing mastering self-love—this might be a good place to pause and focus more on before continuing online dating.
You started browsing others’ profiles for what seemed like hours. You saw a few profiles that really stood out to you and thought, “I will give it a go and send him/her a message.” The next day comes and you send a few more, and send a few more every day for a week or so. Believe it or not, most people have felt this roller coaster of excitement and also felt let down if they’ve been giving online dating a solid chance.
It starts to hit you, you haven’t heard back from any of these exciting, seemingly-perfect matches. And then the “fun part” seems like a distant mirage to your heart.
Remember the old adage of, “Good things come to those who wait”?