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In 2005, journalist Neil Strauss wrote The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, an exposé of the PUA community.
Such a person purportedly abides by a certain system deemed effective by that community in their attempts to seduce partners.These elements are used as resources for men who want to learn to become well-versed in how to successfully attract women.Many pickup artists work on their "game" by improving their understanding of psychology, their confidence and self-esteem (termed "inner game"), and their social skills and physical appearance (physical fitness, fashion sense, grooming) ("outer game").Members aim to improve their seductive capabilities through the development of various lifestyles.The culture surrounding pickup has spawned an entire industry servicing those who want to improve their social and seduction skills with consultations and in-field training.The PUA community itself originated with Ross Jeffries and his students.
In the late 1980s, Jeffries taught workshops, promoted a collection of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) techniques called "speed seduction" (SS), and published a short book of his techniques, How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed.
Lairs first began as study groups soon after Ross Jeffries released his first products and began teaching sometime in the early 1990s.
A "lair" typically involves two elements: an online forum and group meetings.
Other exponents established themselves in roughly the same era, but lacked contacts with each other.
In 1994, Lewis De Payne, then a student of Jeffries, founded the newsgroup alt.(ASF), The community was brought to greater mainstream awareness with the 1999 drama film Magnolia, in which Tom Cruise portrayed a charismatic yet embittered and emotionally-troubled pickup guru who was loosely modeled on Ross Jeffries.
In The Game, Neil Strauss documents various practices that occur in the seduction community.