Trans paradise dating
As a 22-year-old grad starting a career in fashion (and hopefully, one day, my own size-inclusive clothing line), I am drawn to guys who are funny and ambitious.There’s no bigger turn-off than someone who does the bare minimum—except maybe body odour. Being 5’9″, I still like to be able to look up to my man, literally.
Since transitioning in I haven’t reacted positively to guys who hit on me in person because I haven’t mastered the art of telling them that we have “the same parts.” For the past three years, Tinder has been my gateway into online dating as a transgender woman.These are men who find me attractive, but are initially hesitant because of my trans-ness.With these men, I went on dates in public at the movies, or a chill restaurant, and I was viewed as more than a new sexual experience—but I don’t think I was seen as potential relationship material either. We vibed well and there was sexual tension building during our dates. After a month, he reached out to me saying he couldn’t be with me because I am transgender.After realizing that I deserved so much better and was wasting my time with these guys, I stopped giving them attention.After one too many encounters with men who were fetishizing me, I started to spend time on guys who actually wanted to get to know me.These guys want to chill somewhere less public or exclusively at their place so they won’t be seen with me.
I have actually “dated” (if you can even call it that) some of these men, including one guy who checked his apartment’s hallway to make sure his neighbours wouldn’t see me leave his place.
Despite the fact that we were on our third date, he didn’t even acknowledge my existence as I stood there a couple feet from him while he talked to his friend.
His silence told me exactly how much I meant to him.
I stayed in my back seat for probably five minutes to make sure he was gone.
When I got back into the front seat to drive home, I still felt uneasy.
So, whenever I see 6’2″ or taller on a guy’s profile, it’s almost an automatic right swipe.